Helping Children (and everyone!) Cope when a Parent is Away
A few minutes ago, I received my first eFamily News from Bright Horizons . The topic is how to help children cope while a parent is away. The timing, just days before Veteran’s Day, is perfect given how many families have loved ones in the military stationed overseas. I remember when my Dad was in Desert Storm back in 1991 during my senior year and graduation from Boston College. Not an easy time. Granted I was older, but there are takeaways in this article for families with children of all ages.
And to be honest, I wish I had read this two months ago before my husband switched jobs back in September. Our lifestyle changed dramatically – my husband’s commute changing from 6 miles to 225 miles, his schedule changing from a “see you at dinner” departure in the morning to one where he departed before dinner Sunday evening and returned home late Thursday evening. We were fortunate that our situation was only temporary and he is now working back here in Beantown. But the relevance for us and our children was the same: whenever parents are away, the separation hurts.
The main tenets of Bright Horizons’ article below are as follows:
- stay connected before the separation,
- stay connected while gone,
- establish rituals when you return,
- and finally, be aware that planning, humor and perspective are keys to success.
I wish you smooth transitions and lots of patience during your times of separation!
Helping Children and Families When a Parent is Away
|Whenever parents are away from home for more than a day or two, the separation may hurt. Children with family members deployed or awaiting possible deployment in the military are in a very different situation and need support and reassurance that their loved ones will be safe and return home soon. All children benefit from our planned activities and rituals that celebrate the relationship and help them to stay connected to their loved ones.
Staying Connected Before the Separation:
While you are away, your child (with some help if needed from another family member) can:
Staying Connected While Gone
When you are Back Together
Easing the pain of separation is possible with some planning and effort. But also remember that we can go overboard, and sometimes the best laid plans can fall apart or aren’t always possible to carry out. We may need to relax to avoid “are we having fun yet?” attempts that become so emotion-laden they can create stress and have the opposite effect of that which is intended. Humor and perspective are keys to success.
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